The most important, most transformational, most grounding step I ever took was learning to meditate. That was in 1992 and since I was self-employed as a freelance writer at the time, I had the freedom to adhere rigorously to a schedule of twice-daily, 20-minute sessions of Transcendental Meditation. I can’t say how long it took but one day I realized that I had achieved the inner silence I had been looking for. My interior monologue could be silenced at will, and most amazing was the ability to “see” a thought start to form and to be able to simply refuse it – and watch it dissolve to nothing like smoke.
It might have been a matter of “right time, right place” for me, and I know that meditation doesn’t seem like the right avenue for many people. But if you’ve tried it and given up in frustration, consider trying again and becoming willing to give it time. Don’t even call it “meditation.” Just say that you’re going to take some time every day to sit quietly with your Spirit.